Having recently got engaged I have been pondering a lot whether to change my name once we are married. Although I personally hadn͛t really even thought of it as an issue, so many people have been asking me whether I will take my husband͛s name and I have started to realise that my decision is actually quite a big thing.
It͛s funny, Fryer isn͛t even my maiden name so I have little emotional attachment to it anymore, but I do fear that changing it now could mean I lose my professional identity. My whole business has been based around being Denise Fryer (my website was even denisefryer.com until recently) so will past clients suddenly forget who I am and will future clients be able to find me?I have spent years creating and building my career and what if that suddenly just disappeared?
I am fortunate that my fiancé has a good surname (although in some ways that makes the choice even harder) and I am happy to perhaps have the best of both worlds and be a Worthington at home and a Fryer at work but in reality is that just too complicated? I mean, these days with Facebook, twitter, linkedin, Google + and every other digital channel that might pop up before the wedding, how could I possibly decide which is for personal use and which is for professional. I wonder whether I simply have to be ͚all in͛.
Surprisingly the tide has turned and an increasing number of women are opting to take their husband͛s name. In the 90s a quarter of women kept their maiden names but by 2011 this was down to less than 10 per cent, so if I make the change I certainly won͛t be alone!
A lot of people talk about the ͚f word͛ but feminism isn͛t about making a stand and keeping your name out of principal, it is about embracing the chance to choose. I still haven͛t really decided, but I am glad that I have the option……watch this space!